Being transparent, vulnerable and being independent has been the topic in the past few months. Opening up to the world about mental illness, being present and true to everyone around you. As they say on Instagram #liveauthentic with over 10 millions tags.
In this social media era as I’d like to call it, the times when equality, feminism, pride and more has become an open topic. By opening ourselves up to these topics, we are bracing ourselves for: the cheerleaders in our community and the ones who hate. When we are opening ourselves up online, sharing mental illness, personal struggles and more, what is our main purpose?
Being vulnerable to the right people
We need to be authentic in this world, however we should only be selectively vulnerable. This is a lesson I’ve learnt within the past few years. We cannot simply shower our vulnerability to everyone and we need to be a bit reserved at times. Not to say, we are hiding something what I’ve learnt is not everyone in the world deserves your vulnerability and we need to be a bit cautious in today’s world. There are a lot of kind souls in the society we live in, but we cannot always expect the very best in everyone. Be selective with who you open up to, because with stories so raw and organic, we can’t simply just share these moments with everyone.
Do it for the process, not for the result
What is the goal of being vulnerable? Ask your self, dig deep and truly define why we are sharing these struggles with people or online? There will always be people who are kind to help (and I too will help in any way I can) but really open up only when you are ready. Never force yourself to be transparent and vulnerable. Throughout my past (nearly 30 years) of my life, I’ve learn’t to do everything and be honest for the process. The journey to self discovery, ownership of my actions and behaviours, the words that require thought before spoken, all takes time. It’s not discovered in a day and is surely not realized in a moment.
This post is off on a tangent from my other posts but I feel, there is more to sayhuitolove than just product reviews. There’s this other side of me that, well, thinks.